A Problem of Loss: “I Don’t Know How to be Here Without You”
Loss is hard for everyone. It’s like a piece of you has been ripped away, and you don’t know how to go on. You live in the sudden emptiness of loss; the hole where someone used to …
Are You Too Scared to Let Love In?
Sometimes love can be scary. And when it is, you have to get tough. Against vulnerability. Against fear of control. Against loss. Against despair if things don’t work out. That can …
Do You Live in Shame? Changing on the Outside isn’t the Answer
People can be cruel. Maybe you suffered criticism and verbal abuse as a child. You never feel right. You even feel ugly. And, you think that’s what people think about you …
How To Heal from Sexual Abuse if the Molester Still “Haunts You”
Sexual abusers force you to do what they want. They’re bigger, stronger, and have more power. They threaten you. That’s scary. There’s no one to protect you, and you can’t say “No.”
No, Love isn’t Easy if Your Childhood was Hard
Childhood trauma sets you up for confusion, insecurity, hopelessness, and various defenses against being hurt again. Like going cold or choosing the wrong priorities …
Trauma Triggers & Sexual Assault
Yes, Sexual assault is bad. If you’ve been sexually assaulted, you might have typical trauma responses: thinking and not thinking about it, confusion, disorientation, depression…
Do You Have Early Mother Trauma? Dissociation is “Survival”
Mothers are important. Having a good enough one, that is. But if you had a mom who severely traumatized you, that leaves you with self-protections that can last a lifetime…
Do You Retreat into a Fantasy? It’s Because Reality Is Too Sad
If you were neglected or abused as a child and no one really cared, that kind of childhood leads to loneliness and a lot of sadness. When loneliness persists, it leads to despair…
Are You Feeling Frozen? Signs Of Narcissistic Abuse
Do you feel frozen? Always scared of making the “wrong” move? Or doing and saying the “wrong” thing? Are you scrutinized, criticized, or “corrected,” and told it’s for your own good …
Are You Being Gaslit? 4 Reasons You Might Not Realize It
Are you being gaslit? Do you know what gaslighting is? Gaslighting means that you’re constantly told you’re wrong about things you know are right, even your feelings.
Breaking Free of Secrets After Childhood Sexual Abuse
You were sexually abused and violated by someone you needed to trust. Now, you struggle with whether or not to keep your childhood sexual abuse a secret and who is safe to tell.
Do You Struggle with Anger After Childhood Abuse? That’s Normal
Anger after childhood abuse is normal. Yet, you probably struggle to express it. Either you stuff it down, feel guilty about it, or were told your anger is wrong, so that’s how you think about it.